Tonight I wanted to share something very personal in my life that I am currently dealing with. To put it out there CANCER SUCKS!
My grandfather has had Stage Four Liver Cancer since July of last year and we knew our time with him was going to be limited. We had some hope because he was actually chosen to be part of an immunotherapy trial which was supposed to strengthen his immune system and fights the cancer on his own. This worked for a little while and the cancer even shrunk a little bit.
Fast forward to October, my grandfather actually ended up in the hospital for a week due to kidney failure. They were able to control his kidneys, but the immunotherapy had to be stopped.
Here we are in February and we just found out from the doctors at Hospice that he only has about 1-2 weeks left with us. This was definitely hard for me to swallow and I found myself in tears while talking to my mother on the phone during the Super Bowl.
The thing I keep thinking about the most is how I am going to tell my 6 year old daughter that her “Pop Pop” is going to be leaving us soon to go to heaven. I have been searching the Internet for ways to explain this to her and I came across these 10 helpful steps:
1. When talking about death, use simple, clear words
2. Listen and comfort
3. Put emotions into words
4. Tell your child what to expect
5. Talk about funerals and rituals
6. Give your child a role
7. Help your child remember the person
8. Respond to emotions with comfort and reassurance
9. Help your child feel better
10. Give your child time to heal from the loss
This is something that i have never had to explain to her and I am hoping these steps will help her through her grieving process once the time comes. RIP Grandpa we love you!
xoxo Jaimie Lyn